Most of the time, the wedding couple will have some specific ideas about what they want.
Provide very specific advice, and suggestions, and demands to your groomsmen. Tell them “I want you to wear this, and I don’t want you to wear that.” Then they will know exactly what to do. Think about to what degree you want them to match each other. Are they all supposed to wear exactly the same tuxedo? Or are you maybe okay with them just having the same bow tie, the same pocket square, or the same vest? For consistency, it can make sense to get the same accessories.
Make sure the groom is slightly different from all the groomsmen in the sense that he’s elevated. The groom, sometimes if he wears a tuxedo just like his groomsmen, can easily look the same. One way to do that is to have a pocket square in a different colour or maybe a boutonniere in a different colour.
A good item is a vest because it usually has deeper cut armholes so you don’t have an issue with sleeve length and the only thing you have to worry about is the chest width and it’s easy to get that right.
Don’t wear coloured shirts, especially the groom. Sometimes they are red, green, blue, turquoise, pink, purple, whatever the wedding theme colour is. However, that’s just over the top. If you want to add some colour, play with the pocket square or the boutonniere flowers otherwise, go with a white dress shirt, it’s just formal and suits the event.
As the groomsman, you’re different than other guests but at the same time, you never want to make the groom or the bride look not as dapper as you or not as well dressed as you. Try to tone it down, try not to get all fancy with your tie knots or something that could make them embarrassed or feel like they are not the centre of attention because that’s their day. Keep it simple.
Also, don’t wear any extraordinary shoes that draw out too much attention. A black pair of cap toe oxfords is probably your best bet. Otherwise, definitely wear over the calf socks because no one would want to see your hairy calves at a wedding day which is usually quite formal so make sure you get over the calf socks that stay up all day even if you walk a lot.Back to News